Thursday, January 12, 2017

Really?????

Hello lovairs (if I still have any out there).

How has the first two weeks in January been? They've been pretty slow for me but January is looking great and promising which makes me extremely optimistic for the rest of the year.

I've been on a bit of a journey which has led to some soul searching and introspection. I was reading a book on hearing from God and in one of the chapters, the book talks about the gifts we have and how they tie in to what we really should be doing with our lives. The book suggested using one of the myriad of internet resources available which group our talents and attributes into one place and suggest a suitable career path.

I was curious so I did mine. I'll share it with you. I used a resource called goodnet.org
I was asked a few questions about what I liked to do and what my reactions were in certain situations. The result? See for yourself...





I find this very uncanny because I get this a lot from family and friends that I should be in media.

In keeping with my mission statement "to love God and bring joy to others through the gift He placed in me, do you think I should start making my way to a media house? Who has contacts in NTA 2 Channel 5? Hep a sister!

Do you think this is an accurate assessment of me? Will you be taking the quiz for yourself? If you do, please share your answers.


Thursday, January 5, 2017

A Fresh Start

Happy new year my loves. 

May this year typify God's grace in our lives. 

As you all can see, I did not manage to finish my 30 days posting. I got tired after a while. I read somewhere that if you blog about yourself mainly, it's a sure fire way to burn out the blog quickly...unless you are an extremely interesting person. Unfortunately, I blog about myself and my personal experiences mainly AND I am in no way extremely interesting. 

What is one to do? 

Anyways, to avoid the burnout, I will return to the original template of this blog and post once a week unless it is a heck of a week and I have plenty gist. 

I feel very strongly about this year being a fresh start for me. It's not palpable but that phrase has just resonated with me. Last year was bleh...for lack of a better word. I literally coasted through in a haze of self pity, sadness and tears. I did not stop to smell the roses. I tried many times to snap out of it but, though I put on a brave face for all around me, it was tough. But in that year, God was faithful. He did amazing things for my family and I (even though my self pity made me completely ungrateful) He surrounded me with amazing people. I began my professional certification course. And I was in great health for most of the year. Only God can reward unfaithfulness with maximum faithfulness. 

"To have fun in [my] journey through life and
learn from [my] mistakes"
 
So this year, I am excited to announce that I have a new lease on life. I want to do things completely differently from how I did them last year. I coasted from month to month last year. How I managed to do the few things I did was down to God and the encouragement of family and friends. So this year, I've made a little to do list of things I want to do in 2017. Some of them are projects and some of them are behavioural aspirations for the new year. In coming up with my to dos, I started thinking that I need a mission statement for my life in 2017; something that guides my actions and embodies my purpose. So I looked up personal mission statements. I found that a few CEOs had shared their mission statements and when you look at those statements, you literally see the people. 


"To be a teacher and to be known for inspiring
my students to be more than they thought
 they could be" 


So I decided to do mine as a budding CEO and as a person generally. This took some introspection. Not a lot. But a fair bit. I asked myself who I am and what I like to do. I found that a lot of my efforts and talents have been channelled towards making people happy. I like to give gifts, help, make people laugh, do things for people from time to time, gist etc. My business interests are centred around helping, adding colour and adding value. So as a person, first and foremost, and as a budding CEO, my mission statement (not just for 2017, but for life, (subject to more modifications at the appropriate times)) is



"To love God and bring joy to others through the gifts He has placed in me". 

I'm happy with that. I think it somewhat describes who I am and who I will be going forward. 

I think it is worthwhile to consider a personal ethos that will guide ones future actions. 


So I have shared mine. What's yours? Do you think personal MS are necessary or I am being too optimistic for life and too emosh? What are your thoughts? 

Wednesday, December 14, 2016

Day 16: Adult Christmas Fun

I love Christmas!!!!!! Jesus's birthday, amean, what's not to love??? I love Jesus and I love birthdays...it's the perfect holiday for me.

Adulting is super hard and sometimes one needs to cut back and have a bit of fun. What better time to have fun than during Christmas, eh? The problem is that everybody seems to be falling over themselves to entertain kids. There's all sorts lined up for kids during Christmas like it isn't good enough for them to get almost a month off school *rme*. No one thinks of the grown ups who have been worked to the bone during the year. We also need to be entertained! 

This Christmas, I was planning not to go home to Lagos, I was going to spend Christmas with my friends and knock about the capital  city but I've been cajoled. I had thought of what I'd do or like to do during Christmas and I want to share some of my thoughts on fun adult activities to get into over Christmas. 

Leggo!

1. Caroling 


I think Caroling is tons of fun. I don't have the best voice but I'll lend it to a spot of caroling. Some church women carol round my estate from time to time. You know they are giving us Christmas hits like "E lu agogo" and "Keresimesi tu ma de o". It'll be nice to have a young, hip, alternative belting out 8 days of Christmas, This Christmas, Santa Baby etc. So if you have quirky friends or loads of siblings, this is a great activity for Christmas 

2. Cookie Decorating Party

I got this idea from the TV show; New Girl. I like to dabble in baking tinz from time to time. So if you like to bake or just enjoy giving things a go and were planning on having a little party for yourself over the holidays, you should definitely throw a cookie decorating party! I suspect it could be a fantastic ice breaker: people that can't decorate to save their lives, people who put rude things on the cookies, people who just give up, people who steal other people's cookies. It would be quite cute and fun and a great way to get talking to strangers.  

3. The Amusement Park

When was the last time you went to an amusement park? Most of us went as children and I've only been twice as an adult. If you get a bunch of folks together, you all could go and be a bunch of agbayas at the amusement park. I actually will do this over Christmas. A friend recommended it. She did it last year and had a most wonderful time. 

4. Spreading Christmas Cheer


This is not exactly fun, more like a sobering reality of the times we live in. It's a pretty tough time in the country generally. Spreading Christmas cheer is a great way of demonstrating the actual spirit of the season. Getting together with friends to organise charity runs, food drives, soup kitchens, etc could put the fun back in the season. You could also arrange to visit IDP camps, hospitals, orphanages etc to bring them some Christmas cheer. 

5. Christmas Themed Movie Night


I LOVE Christmas movies. Most of them are silly, of course, but that's ok. Staying in and watching a bunch of Christmas movies is a budget friendly and all encompassing activity that one can do with siblings, friends, kids, le boo etc. A lovely movie, a nice Moscato, some plantain chips, a bed and I'm golden! If you're looking for an activity to do with a bunch of friends that doesn't really involve going anywhere, inhaling second hand smoke, having drinks spilled on you or dealing with the policemen that will inevitably line the streets during the yuletide season, let out your inner child and turn this into a pyjama/sleepover potluck party. 

These are my recommendations for fun, adult things to do during Christmas. Any other suggestions Will you try any? Let me know.

Monday, December 12, 2016

Day 15: Favorite Bible Verse

By a technicality (it is 11:19 p.m) it is still day 15. So here's my offering for today.
I have a post coming up on my struggles this year. I've really struggled this year and one of the things that has kept me going is the Bible and the promises it contains for me. Anytime I manage to break free of the haze of the struggle and get into God's Word, it always provides a comfort apropos to my challenge and resets me. 

I have many favorite verses in the Bible but the verses I will be sharing with you today are my all time favorite. For where my head is at these days, these particular set of verses brings it all together for me and makes me see purpose in the struggle.

2 Corinthians 1:3-4 (NKJV): Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

The break down of these verses is basically as follows: 
1. There will be challenges.
2. God Himself is the one who will comfort us through those challenges.
3. The help and comfort we have received is not just for us. We are not comforted for just being comforted sake. God has set an example through the comfort we have received and it is our duty to now dispense what has been deposited in us. 

This hits home for me because though I'm struggling, it hasn't stopped my purpose. Life is not lived in isolation. There are people who God wants us to reach out to right in the middle of our mess when we don't even feel like getting out of bed let alone helping someone else deal with their own issues. 

I've wanted to be selfish a lot this year. I've wanted to turn people away when they approach me to talk things out because I have my own stuff going on. But what I found was that merely by offering a listening ear,  I myself, became blessed by the responses the Holy Spirit gave to the issues through me. I would say things that I KNEW I did not have the wisdom to come up with. So while the Holy Spirit was doing His work, I also was being offered comfort. I always felt so much better after having listened, talked and prayed with people and I think that typifies this verse for me. 

Sunday, December 11, 2016

Day 14: I Want To Learn How To...

...Sew.

Because tailors are mad and I am over them.

That's all.

Happy public holiday tomorrow, all. Might I take this moment to appreciate my Muslim brethren for how they steady gift us with these holidays? God bless you.

Saturday, December 10, 2016

Day 13: Favourite TV Cast

Holla amigos and amigrettes.

What's good?

This is pretty much a meh post but here's day  13 guys.

So I'm a series girl myself. I like nothing more than coming home from work and getting into a good one. I particularly love the big ensemble shows: Friends. How I met Your Mother. The Big Bang Theory. Will & Grace. etc.

Sometimes, the casts of these shows, in interviews, would claim how they're all best friends and get along so great and how that contributes to the success of their shows. One particular cast has embodied this both on and off their shows. The cast of That 70s Show has to be the best and most supportive cast on television in my opinion.

L-R: Kelso (Ashton Kutcher), Hyde (Danny Masterson), Eric (Topher Grace), Fez (Wilmer Valderrama), Donna (Laura Prepon)
Top: Jackie (Mila Kunis)

Did anyone get into That 70s Show? I thought it was great. Based in the 70s, it focuses on six friends and is set mainly in the basement of one of the friend's family home. We get a look at the dynamics of family, friendship and societal issues of the 70s. It was appropriately funny and though it wasn't the best show of its time, I think it spun some amazing friendships.

I love the way the cast are so supportive of themselves. With the exception of Topher Grace (whom I suspect might be an ass) these guys go to bat for each other so much. Their stint on That 70s Show spun off a couple of other shows like

i. Are You There Chelsea?


ii. Men At Work


iii. The Ranch  


Of course there were shows like Punk'd by Ashton Kutcher and Yo Mama hosted by Wilmer Valderrama. Punk'd featured the whole That 70s Show cast (excluding douchey (I'm guessing) Topher Grace) .

These guys met in 1998 and have supported each other since then. On every show they've created, they've all appeared on at least one episode to support the other's hustle. I think a true Hollywood friendship is hard to find but these guys have maintained theirs for 18 years. Kudos to them!